Self-liberation is the greatest victory
~ Lailah Gifty Akita

Welcome ~ I’m so glad you’re here

I’m Asher (they/them), and I offer online and in-person coaching sessions with individuals and relationships in a brief, ongoing or intensive format. A commitment towards individual and collective liberation is the foundation of all of my work.

I help people live their lives with greater clarity, integrity, authenticity, compassion and embodiment.

Asher (they/them)

About me & how I work

I bring a spacious, accepting and empathetic stance to our work together, interested for us to know all the parts of you. Together, we will cultivate a space for deep exploration, introspection, and listening, where self-compassion can flourish, where humor and playfulness can exist alongside grief and pain, where authenticity and self-trust are nurtured, and where the clarity of your values and integrity can manifest in your life. 

One of my strengths is an ability to see through to the heart of the matter. This gift of clarity helps me facilitate a space where we can tell the truth — first, and perhaps most importantly, for you to tell the truth to yourself about your own life.

I hold a Master’s degree in clinical social work from Smith College School for Social Work, and while I do not offer psychotherapy, my coaching practice is informed by my clinical training. I have trained in Internal Family Systems (Level 1), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Motivational Interviewing and Restorative Practices and incorporate these modalities into my practice.

My work, and my life, is rooted in deep relationship with the Earth. This world view is woven throughout all of our work together, and I am grateful to offer outdoor and nature-based sessions, relying on the wisdom and the cycles of nature to show us the way towards healing, wholeness and full expression.

I work from a radical social justice framework, and consider how our lives, our psyches, our relationships and communities are shaped by systemic oppression, racial capitalism and colonization, and how we can commit to broader movements towards material, social and spiritual liberation.

Some salient social identities I hold: white, settler, queer, genderqueer, mixed-class, formally-educated, middle-age, able-bodied, straight-sized, in recovery, survivor. I actively engage in the lifelong process of understanding myself, the world around me, and the contexts in which we live, and am committed to participating in movement towards individual and collective liberation.

Please feel free to inquire further about my experiences or else anything that may be important to you in our work together. 

Who I tend to work with

Individuals

Life is… a lot, sometimes. We are living in wild times – being asked to let go of and grieve that which does not serve us individually and collectively, to let our hearts break wide open, and to make space for new ways of living, loving and practicing to emerge in our own lives and in our communities. 

Who I work with: 

  • Queer and Trans* adults, and those exploring gender and/or sexuality 

  • Radical or progressive folks living in rural areas

  • Those leading an “unconventional” life – artists, travelers, anarchists, activists, seekers; those committed to living a life of heart & purpose regardless of what society dictates 

  • Those seeking to bring their life into greater alignment with their integrity, values and authentic expressions 

  • Those seeking a deeper relationship with the Self

  • Those seeking to better know and communicate their boundaries, needs and wants in relationship with others 

  • Those navigating grief & loss

  • Those facing life transitions

  • Those integrating big experiences into their lives (e.g., psychedelic, travel, relational, spiritual experiences) 

Relationships

Oftentimes, when conflict, tension or difficulty emerges in relationships, there is something that is asking to be transformed. Through self-reflection, self-trust, and telling the truth to ourselves and each other, we are able to meet these moments with compassion, courage and integrity, and truly open to the possibility of transformation. Change in relationship can be scary to face at times, and change carries within it the possibility for greater authenticity, sovereignty, learning, growth, and depth. 

The opportunity to explore these edges of conflict and transformation is some of my favorite work that I get to do with people. 

Who I work with

  • Adult children and parents 

  • Adult siblings 

  • Friendships

  • Project partners 

  • Those navigating temporary or permanent separations 

  • Asher sees straight to the core. They have helped me time and again to cut through the noise and confusion, bringing greater clarity to what’s going on inside and out, and guiding me toward meaningful, values-aligned action. Working with Asher has transformed the way I approach myself and others with ever greater honesty and compassion. They bring the gifts of clarity, courage, and acceptance. They are at once a deeply practical problem-solver, while also helping me return to my own spiritual core whenever I have wandered too far from myself.
    —JP, psychotherapist & business owner

  • Asher has this wild ability to see exactly what is going on, and then gently, lovingly and firmly pointing you to the thing that will free you, that you can’t quite see yourself. Working with Asher changed the trajectory of my life. I’m now experiencing a deeper sense of inner freedom and choice, and I feel more grounded in myself and gifts than I ever could have imagined a year ago. If you have a chance to work with Asher, do it!  You will receive the exact medicine you need. 
    —RA, parent, coach, community organizer

  • Working with Asher has been such a gift in my life. Their empathy, compassion, and insight are truly remarkable and exceptional. I've received an immense amount of support from them on such a variety of content, and am so very grateful that our work together is part of my life. I have done a significant amount of healing work in many types of spaces, and can confidently say that Asher's coaching container is one of a kind -- thoughtful, intuitive, curious, playful, and deeply authentic. Their compassionate heart is such a balm for navigating this beautiful, complicated world. 
    —CCW, artist, musician & community facilitator

  • Asher embodies the rarest combinations of infinite acceptance and diligent boundary setting. As a Family Nurse Practitioner running a multi-million dollar private clinic, I’ve relied on Asher’s counsel and coaching personally and enjoy referring patients to them for their skill. They will hold your feet to the fire without flinching and also completely understand a messy life, a messy mind and questionable follow through on set tasks. They do this with humor and humanity.  Their insights have been value-adds for my life and clinical practice. I highly recommend Asher for personal and organizational support. They are a gem!
    —GE, healthcare provider & business owner

  • Asher is someone who can meet both the gritty and vulnerable aspects of a person’s experience with care, curiosity, and deep respect. Their way of listening and relating reflects a genuine commitment to growth, integrity, and showing up in alignment with your values. Asher brings a rare blend of grounded presence, humility, and humor, creating a space where you can truly show up as you are.
    —SH, healthcare provider